Michelle Obama admitted she “couldn’t stand” her husband, Barack Obama, for the first 10 years of their marriage because they were carrying uneven loads.The former first lady candidly discussed the early years of the couple’s union, during which they were raising two young daughters, explaining that she was doing the heavy lifting while the eventual president was often absent.
“People think I’m being catty saying this. It’s like, there were 10 years where I couldn’t stand my husband,” Michelle said during a recent Revolt TV panel, which also included H.E.R., Winnie Harlow, Kelly Rowland and Tina Knowles.
Michelle, 58, said she began to turn her “ire” on Barack, 61, when he would find time to golf or travel for work while she tried to balance being a mother and a lawyer.
“And for 10 years, while we’re trying to build our careers and, you know, worrying about school and who’s doing what and what, I was like, ‘Ugh, this isn’t even,'” she recalled.
“And guess what? Marriage isn’t 50/50 — ever. There’s sometimes I’m 70, he’s 30, but guess what? We’ve been married 30. I would take 10 bad years over 30.”
Michelle revealed in November that the sisters currently share a house in Los Angeles, where Malia has been working in TV while Sasha attends the University of Southern California.
Sasha is dating Clifton Powell Jr., a basketball player-turned-director and son of “Ray” actor Clifton Powell. Malia, meanwhile, has been linked to record producer Dawit Eklund.
“There are times I’m 70, he’s 30. There are times he’s 60, 40, but guess what?” she continued. “Ten years – we’ve been married 30. I would take 10 bad years over 30 – it’s just how you look at it. And people give up … [saying], ‘Five years – I can’t take it.’”
The former first lady is currently promoting a new book, The Light We Carry. In the discussion about the difficulties of a marriage, she said that she and her husband hadn’t discussed how much work is required and “how hard it is even when you are madly in love with the person, even when everything works out right”.
When Barack Obama was elected president, the couple’s daughters were 10 and seven. In a recent extract from her book published in the Guardian, the former first lady described how she and her husband learned that for all the “dreaming, preparing and planning for family life to go perfectly … in the end, you’re pretty much just left to deal with whatever happens”.
“You can establish systems and routines, anoint your various sleep, feeding and disciplinary gurus from the staggering variety that exist,” Obama wrote in the excerpt. “You can write your family bylaws and declare your religion and your philosophy out loud, but, at some point, sooner rather than later, you will almost surely be brought to your knees, realizing that despite your best and most earnest efforts, you are only marginally – and sometimes very marginally – in control.”
In her latest comments, she added: “Little kids, they’re terrorists. They have demands. They don’t talk. They’re poor communicators. They cry all the time.”
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